Monday, September 10, 2007

Wishing...

This is a project I wish I never made.

These are gloves for my friend Katie, who's father just died two weeks ago. I wish he didn't die. He had cancer, and while his death wasn't exactly sudden, it happened very quickly and unexpectedly, and no one was ready for him to die, including him.

I wish I was there to hold Katie's hand, the way she was there for me when I lost my own father three years ago. I wish I was there to drink coffee with Katie and drink margaritas with Katie and talk and cry with her.

I wish I could do more than send along a pair of handknit gloves, a proxy for my own hands, to comfort her. I wish I didn't know first hand how much little gestures like this can comfort the grieving.

The details for this project:
Pattern: Unisex Mittens from One Skein by Leigh Radford
Yarn and Needles: Cascade 220 (leftover from the CPH), US 6 & 7
Mods: I made the fingers tipless to ensure that they'll fit the recipient

20 comments:

Christy said...

I'm so sorry that things are this way. And I'm sorry that you're hurting.

You express your sadness beautifully.

Susan said...

I think that they're a lovely gift and that they'll be appreciated for a long time to come. As lovely as the gloves are, it's the thought that counts, and the thoughts that you've expressed in your post are tremendously thoughtful and sincere, which will make the gloves even more of a treasure.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. They turned out so nicely - it's a thoughtful gift.

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry for your friends loss. You're a good friend to send such a thoughtful gift, imbued with wonderful, warm thoughts.

Christie said...

You are all in my thoughts...

Christy said...

Powerful. Although nothing can fix it, the thoughts and love that went into them are such a comfort.

Ann said...

I know she will love them. It just sucks, doesn't it?

Kristy said...

So beautifully expressed. I'm so sorry. You're a good friend, and I'm sure the gloves will be a comfort.

Madge said...

Crafted by your hands to hold hers in warmth and love...what a wonderful gift this pair of gloves is for your friend. Everyone should be so lucky to have such a good friend as you!

Bridget said...

If Katie is your friend, she'll know that you are holding her hand, and that you are there with her.

They are beautiful, and a beautiful gift.

Anonymous said...

They turned out nicely, I am so sorry to hear what happened. Sending happy thoughts your way.

pamela wynne said...

*hugs*

Liz said...

:'( I'm so sorry! I think you found just the right gift to send her. Hugs all around!

Sally said...

I know firsthand what a good friend you are, in good times and bad, and I know that Katie will feel your love through this gift.

Anonymous said...

It's hard to lose someone you love, it helps when you have a strong support system, Katie is fortunate to have you as a friend Liz. The gloves are lovely, I am sure your friend will know the love that went into making them; and, I hope they bring Katie some comfort in her greiving.

knitnzu said...

She loves you as you do her, and she'll treasure those gloves. Cancer just sucks...

Octopus Knits said...

They are lovely, and I'm sure they will be a comfort to her.

diana said...

Friends like you - kind, empathetic, funny - were what got me through. I'm glad Katie has you as a friend right now.

Anonymous said...

Katie will feel the love knit into those gloves and I"m sure she will feel much comfort from them.

Epicuriousity said...

nicely said Liz. I know she will love them. The funeral was surreal, but the harder part comes when the crowds dissipate.